While travelling alone in trains, you have many mediums of entertainment. One of which is overhearing.
Group of adult grown up friends were coercing their about to get hitched friend to eat the packet of chips and prove his friendship. At surface level it seemed like I should overhear some other conversation but no. I stuck to see what happens next. He replied he doesn’t eat these things now. To this, they teased: “Just because some diva has come into your life, you can’t change who you are.”
My thoughts: What’s so special about the processed food- if he had willingly denied ultra processed food It’s all healthy no? Friends should be delighted about the better choices this guy made. But it is not that simple. Some people wants to see old version because that’s what they bonded with? But at the same time They don’t always see how much they themselves have changed since those days.
It is ingrained within shared identity- we do these things when we are together, fear of loss due to changes, mockery for the sake of mockery.
Meanwhile, there are always some intelligent changes which people don’t seem to give heed to, yet, these affect relationship identity in the long term.
- Change in body stats
- Personal and intellectual growth
- Improvements in clarity of thoughts
And yet, we are often too busy to notice these unconventional shifts . Instead, We prefer to call out the visible change and make sure they are heard. Isn’t that a flaw in how people perceive others?
In the end, and again, it’s difficult to find what people will not get offended with. One may not even be surprised to hear people’s displeasure in as trivial a thing as someone converting a physical SIM to an eSIM.
Next time you hear anyone bitterly complain, “wow, see you all changed” remember, Change is constant- no derivative possible. Either grow with the change, or submit to stagnation.
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